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Getting started in polygamy

HI my name is Sam and my wife is Mary.  We have been married about three years when she, not me, brought home Susan.  Telling me she had feelings for this woman and wanted me to get to know her better.  So I did and I fell in love with Susan too.  

Can you give me, Mary, and Susan advice on helping with jealousy in this kind of relationship?  That is the biggest problem that we have come across.  And the jealousy is Mary over Susan and whether I am going to leave her for Susan.

Here's a very short background on us.  I work full time as an airplane mechanic.  Mary quit school by her own choice when I got custody of my two boys from a previous marriage to raise the three kids together. Susan is a student right now but would like to have a child of her own, and would be willing to be the stay at home person while Mary goes back to school.

Can you give us any advice to making this work out? And for me not losing both of the ladies at the same time.

Thanks for any help you can give,
Sam Doe

Hello from Canada

I think the three of you are a real inspiration of how polygamy can be a very harmonious family situation...
 
I am a single mom with three children. I have met a wonderful couple. He loves his wife and he loves me. He loves his children and he loves mine. I love his wife and I love their kids. I was their son's teacher for two years and really got to know and love him and became a friend of the family. Then friend evolved into something more, when I was no longer their son's teacher.
 
I have told both him and his wife that I would like to be Wife #2. He'd love to have "one family ", meaning all of us together. I think she is warming up to the idea but I am not completely sure yet. However, she did mention last week how it would be nice if we could buy a duplex together, so we could live closer together and do the "co-parenting thing".
 
Warm regards,
Jane Doe